I have often been fascinated by what makes people tick. Why one person reacts one way to a situation and someone else reacts completely opposite? Why do children raised by the same parents all take different paths through life??
There are so many personality tests and charts available picking one can be a challenge or to some overwhelming.
I have looked at many and the one that I understand the most and resonates with me is one based on the DISC personality test, but to make it easier to understand and to remember they associate each letter with a bird.
Here is a quick look at characteristics of each one: (Borrowed from the book “Taking Flight)
Words and phrases that describe Eagles (The D in DISC)
Words and phrases that describe Parrots (The I in DISC)
Words and phrases that describe Doves (The S in DISC)
Words and phrases that describe Owls (The C in DISC)
Most people tend to be a combination of 2 or more of the personalities. I have also come across people who are very strong in one personality and people who are great combination of all 4 personalities.
There's not a right way to be or not to be, but we are naturally inclined to a certain personality style and recognizing the strengths and weaknesses we have helps us to recognize them in others and hopefully not be so judgemental.
“We tend to stay in our natural style until someone or something pulls us out of it. When that happens, we feel uncomfortable. But make no mistake, that uncomfortable zone is where growth occurs. It is also where adventure resides.” – Merrick Rosenberg, The Chameleon
The question remains: How does understanding these help us with our families, friends, coworkers, customers, and/or potential business partners??
I believe culture and society expect a certain behavior and when we don't conform to their expectations we either disappoint them or they may try to change us. I don't believe it's always intentional, but they've been taught an expected behavior and they naturally expect it from others.
Merrick Rosenberg in The Chameleon says “But in the end, we are not good for others if we are not good for ourselves.”
When we learn appreciate and embrace our differences, our strengths and our weaknesses we can improve our communication which will affect all the the relationships listed above.
Here is a free test if you would like to determine your personality style: https://www.mydiscprofile.com/en-us/