We all have groups of people whether they are friend groups, community groups, church groups, or even family members. We love them, but they aren't always good for us to stay too close too.
I have always been a people pleaser. I love for people to be happy and get along. Shying away from drama that I can't solve has been my normal behavior.
Recently, I've encountered some situations that have made me wonder if there is a time to step away even though it's a good thing and good people, but right now it's not good for me. I'm not saying permanently, but some space might be healthy.
Being involved and lending a hand is my natural behavior. My family is having a big 50th birthday party this summer for my brother, and 2 cousins. I'm the one who helps get all the loose ends together that get overlooked. But, I am having a major difference of opinion with most of the family and they are trying to manipulate me to their way of thinking. I love discussion, but I have to draw back if their only motive is to manipulate me. Which has never been the way our family interacts.
I'm not one to miss events or get togethers. They are my favorite things and I thrive on seeing everyone. But, being manipulated to do what they want just because they want it is not only hurtful, but makes me feel it's time for a little distance. To keep going over the same thing is only going to prolong the issue and hurt our relationship in the long run.
I am involved in a community of entrepreneurs and again I Iove to be involved and help in many aspects of the community. I have gleaned so much from many people in this community and it has changed my life and my business. This community has had such a big impact on me I love giving back and helping others experience it and get the most out of it.
That being said there are still times I can get so involved and engrossed in the community it can overwhelm my senses and my life. I have come to realize too much of a good thing is sometimes too much. I let myself get to the point I am so absorbed in it my emotions get out of whack and then I can't work or be effective at all.
I find it hard to pull back, but also a tad refreshing to just step back a little and take a breather. A small break so I can go back and be even more effective with my intentions.
As much as I enjoy being in the middle of everything I have realized stepping back has it's benefits too.
This is probably pretty obvious to most people. Sometimes I need to be hit by a two by four to get it through my head.
To Your Success,
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